Ok, before you keep reading. Please know that I’m about to write about my vagina. If you’ve never in your life wanted to know anything about my lady bits, stop reading now. If you keep going and you regret it, don’t say I didn’t warn you.
Because I had a c-section, I listed to my doctors advice religiously about what I could and couldn’t do. And this included that we couldn’t have sex for 6 weeks. I went a little above and beyond with this, waiting until my 6 week checkup which was at 7 weeks due to the holidays. It was at that appointment when I decided that I’d get an IUD as there is no way I want a baby in the near future. Not a chance.
When I went back to see my OB couple of weeks later for the insertion, she asked if we had had sex yet. We hadn’t. We figured since we had waited that long, we could wait until I wasn’t able to be fertilized. It was that moment when my doctor said to me something along the lines of, “this is something that nobody talks about, but breastfeeding women’s vaginas are as dry as a menopausal 50 something. Seriously, it’s like the Sahara in there.” What’s that all about?
I was like “for real?” and she said “yup” and something about hormones hormones hormones. Then she wrote me a prescription to help keep my lady parts Lubriderm-ed. That said, I was in complete denial that this could happen to me. I’m a young women. I have no problems. I’ll have no problems. I don’t need that “old lady” prescription.
Well friends, let me tell you that that prescription has been filled and my professional doctor who gave me a scientific opinion was actually right.
What’s weird is that none of my friends have talked about this. I actually can’t think of any of them mentioning this ever. Not once. Is it that we’re just embarrassed of the fact that our “insert here holes” seem to feel more like Bounty paper towel vs American apple pie? I have had friends who talked about how painful doing it was for nearly a year after the baby (also the same amount of time they were breastfeeding), so maybe they were just super-duper dry and they needed a vag-tab (pill for the vagina) like me. Because sex shouldn’t hurt. It should feel awesome.
So ladies, it’s time we talk about this. It’s not embarrassing. Your body is feeding a baby and your extra fluids are being used to make milk. Hate to be the one to tell you, but there’s nothing left to make lube. But I am happy to tell you that there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s totes normal. It’s just that everyone is so hush hush about it. So if you’re having problems, go see your doc, get a prescription and get yours the way you’re supposed to. The opposite of dry.