For the most part, I don’t really have an issue meeting people in real life – I’m friendly enough. However, like most big city singles, at one point in the 4 years of living here, I created a Plenty of Fish account. Actually, I made it last year on new years day as I wanted to turn my dating life around (was hoping to meet someone of substance). In the beginning of last year I went on a few dates, but then decided that the online dating world wasn’t for me. That said, even though, I haven’t used POF to go on a date in nearly a year, I still keep my account to peruse and see what’s out there.
The problem I had was that there were very few people, that I actually wanted to engage. There were a few issues:
- Men rarely post good pictures of themselves. It’s like a camera comes around and most of them forget how to smile. And when you have no personality to base it on, the picture is all you have, it’s kind of a big deal.
- I could write someone off for the smallest detail: they live in Burlington/Mississauga/Vaughan/Hamilton/etc. (not that there’s anything wrong with these places, I just live downtown and that seems like WAY too much effort, especially if I was going to meet them online), their profile said ‘some college’, or in one picture it looked as though their ears were too small for their head – ANY excuse to not meet someone online I would jump at.
Really, the main reason that I determined that POF was not for me, was because the men who’s pictures I always seemed to be drawn to, their profiles at first would be perfect:
- Height: 5’11’ to 6’5
- Job: professional
- Interests: sports, good movies, other interesting normal things
Then I’d get into the description:
I’m a funny, successful guy who has lots of friends and a great family…
All of the above are great things – let’s be serious, these guys seemed like they were going to be a catch. Then I’d keep reading their profile and in the last paragraph, these dudes would be sure to drop in something similar to this:
I just want to take my time and ease back into dating. Maybe I’ll be lucky and meet that special lady. Might as well get this out in the open now. I want a lady with a healthy sexual appetite. One who isn’t shy in the bedroom and isn’t afraid to initiate things. I’m nicely endowed, arouse easily and do my best to satisfy my woman. I think you’ll be very happy with what I can offer you ;)*
Thanks for the info buddy. What’s that all about? Getting right to the punch there. How about we share a cocktail, see if we like each other and see what happens. You know, leave somethings to the imagination, yet to be discovered. But instead, it’s online, public for all those who thought your picture was cute to see. May as well change your name to: Lookingtogetlaid, or Ihaveabigpenis.
My big question is: Does this actually work? What kind of woman respond to this? AND – am I just a prude? Is this normal, am I’m the odd one out?
* Stole that blurb from someones actual profile.
*** If it seems as though I’m against online dating, I’m not. I still check after all. I just haven’t had a great experience.