I’ve recently come to the conclusion that if someone comes off as ‘perfect on paper’ you should immediately put on a bullet proof vest, then duck, then cover. The reason for this is, as soon as you utter the words ‘Perf on Papes’, you then no longer see that person as a human. You see them as a list of attributes you made up one night when you were lonely. NOT A GOOD IDEA. Especially when they hammer down your throat all of their real attributes that make them suck big time.
Example list girls may have for boys:
- Has a job
- Eats with a fork
- Gets along with friends/family
- Knows how to fish
In my own personal example, I met a boy about 2 years ago and he was perfect: Smart, funnyish, great job, overachiever, ate with a fork, had a little money, handsome and totally fit. Once I saw all of those things in him, I was unable to see all the red flags that he was clearly waving in front of me. Like I was walking around with a sleeping mask on. Even when he’d be telling me that I needed to go to the gym because I had a nice frame to work with (what’s that all about?- a nice frame to work with…dick, I looked good as I was), I’d brush it off because he was able to use a fork and had once caught three trouts with one hook.
Example list boys may have for girls:
- Has boobs
- Nice bum
- Can carry a conversation
- Your friends want her
- Can chug a bee
The problem with the lists is that it give you the opportunity to overlook everything else that is wrong with them. For example: A girl can easily have all of the above attributes, BUT she may also sing every word that she says, only watches the show Dallas on reruns and potentially could be an actual witch. Like love potion making, spell casting, evil, jealous crazy b-word. AND since she has boobs, a nice bum, your friends want her…etc., you hold on as long as you possibly can, because you’ll never find a girl that can chug a beer so fast with a rack like that.
RED flags are waving everywhere and we do not seem to notice them because we are blinded by the list.
I think, that if we need to have a list it should be about the manditory things that actually matter:
- Able to laugh at themselves
- Personality fits with yours
- Funny (this is not mandatory for everyone, but it is for me)
- Able to see things to completion…etc.
All that being said, it’s time to take the blinders off. At a certain point you get to be too old to focus on looks, money and career. All those things become an awesome bonus as long as the person is kind, caring, funny, REAL…etc.